My x husband is dating
Start planning for an independent life, because it sure doesn’t sound like this one makes you happy.But to begin examining your situation, first speak with a counselor.I was hoping that I would never have to see your face. My world stopped turning because I was overcome with fear for you. You see, my ex-husband is not who he’s making himself out to be in this very moment.I tried really hard to ensure that I would never even have to learn your name, but social media and its passively cruel games in hopes of connecting people together had another plan. He is not the charming, happy, loving, affectionate person who you believe that you have found.Before you know it, you won’t speak to your family as often.Your friends will become a seemingly distant memory. I’m sure your family is a loving, supportive group of people and you will want to involve him in this because you love him (or will love him) and also a small part of you hopes that your family will rub off on him and give him something he never had. He had (and has) a wonderful family that he CHOSE to do the things he did to, not the other way around.I hope you will first see if the two of you can find some good things to do together and see if you can enjoy each other’s company and put each other first (rather than his mom! But if that doesn’t work, compose a life plan for life after marriage.
He is a broken bird who which you instinctively want to save, but my darling girl, you simply cannot. He will tell you he’s done with you at least a dozen times in those moments yet doesn't mean it, but for your own sake, I hope that you do.He had all the love and support and sunshine and rainbows and butterflies and puppies that anyone could ever ask for-and it still wasn't good enough. The truth about this man is simple: he does not know how to love. I can sit here and name every horrible thing that occurred throughout our relationship and marriage, but I don’t think you want to hear it, and frankly I have worked extremely hard to stop reliving it. The wounds on my body have healed, but the scars that have remained are deep. I’m sorry that I allowed him to believe that what he was doing to me was right for as long as I did, because now he very well could do this to you.I’m sorry, but you and your family will never be good enough. He believes in a love and a life that isn't real, and therefore, he will never truly be happy. I’m sorry that his lies and his games were so convincing that I wholeheartedly believed him, because now he thinks they are bulletproof.I didn't recognize your face, or your name, but we had a few friends in common, and I definitely recognized the man standing next to you in your profile picture. I know what you’re thinking right now-crazy ex-wife is stalking your profile because you’re dating her ex-husband and she’s mad. I’m sure he has told you that he’s divorced (and some not-so-pretty “things” about me), and maybe even a little bit of his family history, and maybe even a few other quips of smaller things in his life that he has “overcome”, enough to make you feel badly for him, proud of him for where he is today, and even a little lucky for being with someone who has been through what he has. All of a sudden he will go from perfectly calm to a complete irrational hurricane in a matter of seconds-and it will be all your fault. And I can’t express to you how much I apologize to you for it.